Intimate Relationships Exam 3
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Terms | Definitions |
|---|---|
 Passionate love scale | high score= greater passionate love Measures arousal Avg rating for each item=7.15 |
| Rubins love and Liking scale | 3 themes: intimacy, passion, caring Compares responses that reference friends vs. romantic partners |
| Self expansion model | Causes self concepts to expand, lovers bring us new experiences that help us learn about ourselves Romance pushes ppl to marry, compassion=keeps married |
| Misattributions | Misattributing our feelings of attraction to someone. Attraction based on 2 related assumptions: Physical arousal, attributing this arousal to another. May be exagerated or misplaced |
| Excitation transfer | Chain reation, you experience 1 arousal event (ex; having final 4 seats) have 2nd experience that trumps 1st one (ex meeting attractive man). You forget about the bball game, aroused toward hot guy |
| Suspension bridge theory | Men meet hot girl on high bridge= more aroused than men on low bridge. Arousal fuels attraction ,both + and - emotions can intensify |
| Secure attached | Greater intimacy, better sex |
| Older people | less arousal, more + feelings |
| Men | have more romantic attitudes, more likely to believe in love at 1st sight, fall in love faster than women, put more stock into passion |
| Why doesn't romantic love last? | Fantacy erodes w/ time, ideals are easily tarnished, novelty adds excitment and energy |
| Cooliage effect | There's 1 rooster and multiple hens |
| <25% of people | say pre-marital sex is "always or almost always" wrong |
| 95% of people | Have prematial sex |
| Pre marital sex in same sex couples | 49% feel its morally wrong |
| If homosexuality is biological | 78% acceptable |
| Homosexuality is a choice | 30% acceptable |
| Sociosexual orientation | beliefs or behaviors that describe our feelings of sex |
| Restricted | Sex is only ok w/ committed relationship |
| Unrestriced | can have sex w/o relationship or commitment, more men, flirtatious |
| Men are more | permissive, endorse sex w/o intimacy |
| Men prefer | More permissive dating partners but conservative marraige partners |
| Social desirability | Not wanting to be judged |
| Avg age of first sex | 17, most people have sex by 20, only 15% have not |
| 1/4 females | Have an STI |
| 18% of women | have HPV |
| # of sex partners by middle age | men= 7 partners, women= 4 |
| Is oral sex really sex? YES | 68% women, 33% men- performing. 68% women, 40% men- receiving |
| College students: 70.3% men 71% women | Had at least 1 sexual partner in the last month |
| Alfred Kinsey | asked about specific sex, critisized for morals. Found diversity in sexual behavior . Reevaluated masterbation |
| Masters and Johnson | measured genetials during masterbation and sexual intercourse. Male and female sexual responces= similar. Found gay and lesbo couples have better sex |
| Shere Hite | 70% of women fail to reach orgasm from vag sex alone, 63?'s how does orgasm feel etc. |
| Who has more sex? | Cohabiting partners - 3x per week, married= 2x |
| One of fastest growing groups with HIV | Seniors |
| Biological sexism | women are more biologically able to have STI |
| Percent of college students that constantly use condom | 50% |
| Cohabitation | 50% will cohabitate, only 5% in 1960 |
| Why is cohabitation so common | Earlier sexual relationships, latter marraiges- 26: women 27:men |
| Stayovers | "shacking up" staying overnight 3 or more nights per week with seperate residences |
| Selection hypothesis | cohabbiting selection factors- pre existing behaviors that select people to certain types of relationships |
| Experience hypothesis | How people think in cohabitation changes their marraiges |
| Inertia Hypothesis | Cohabiting partners who wouldnt get married DO because they experience increasing constraints to a breakup |
| 75% of cohabiting men and 73% cohabiting women | Do not expect to marry |
| Men who cohabit | are less dedicated to wives |
| Relational Evaluation | The degree to which others consider their relationship with us valuble |
| Relational Devaluation | Decreases in others regaurd for us |
| Ostracism | Being ignored, cold shoulder, used to punish partner. Threatens need to belong |
| Concequences for victim of ostracism | self-defeating choices, put downs, become less generous . High self-esteem dont put up with it |
| Jealousy in 50's and 60's | Sign of love |
| Jealousy in 70's and 80's | unhealthy and impromper |
| Jealousy in 2000's | A mix of love and being unhealthy |
| Jealousy | observed in children as young as 2, most people direct anger at partner, not rival |
| Reactive jealousy | Response to realistic danger |
| Suspicious jealousy | No misbehavior from partner, can be a by product of previous infidelity |
| Jelousy is high when | person is dependant, low alterntives, pre-occupied attachment style |
| Rivalry from friends is more | Powerful |
| Women threatened by | beautiful rival |
| Men threatened by | dominance and confidence |
| Mate poaching | Behavior that is intended to attract someone already in a relationship. 60% men 40% women have tried it, extroverted and horny people do it |
| Men paternity uncertainty | 2% of children are raised by man who doesnt know he isnt the father |
| Jealousy doesnt equal | Love |
| Clues of infidelity | Women= more sex, more romantic Men= more quality time, more attentive |
| Deception | creating impression that deceiver knows is false |
| College students lie | twice a day, only 5% haven't lied in past week |
| 1/4 of lies are told | to protect the recipient |
| Mismatch | liars tend to view their deception as less serious than recipient |
| Good liars | High social skills, not much to lose, an unattractive target |
| Woman betray | Friends and fam |
| Men betray | intimate and buisness partners |
| More likely to forgive | secure attached |
| Why do people have sex? | Emotional, physical, pragmatic, insecurity |
| 37% of Hookups | involves strangers |
| 50% of hookups | include oral sex or intercourse |
| 75% of college students have | hookups |
| Extradyadic sex | Having sex with someone other that one's partner 21% women 32% men |
| Men have higher | sex drives than women |
| Episodes of sexual desire | 39 (men) (9) women. Women are gate keepers |
| Men | spend more $ on sex and fantasize more |
| almost 50% of men with partners | masterbate at least once a week |
| Principles of lesser interest | female has more power - use power to get what she wants |
| More than 50% of people | extremely physically satisfied with sex lives |
| No difference beween better sex with | gay and lesbo couples |
| People who have more sex | have better sex |
| Self determination theory | sex is best when it fulfills autonomy (control), competence (confidence-relates to performance), relatedness (connection) |
| Bidirectional | more better sex= better relationship etc. |
| Communicating desire | most common sexual communication |
| 54% of men have mispercieved | a women's intentions at least once |
| More likely to use indirect verbal strategies | Women |
| More likely to use indirect non verbal strategies | Men |
| Verbal coercion and or intoxication leads to | intercourse (rarely reported) |
| 56% of college women experience | coercion |
| sexual assault number | 882-7481 |
| 24 Hour crisis counciling | 1800-395-2132 |
| Ancient Greece | Passionate love=maddness, platonic love was ideal |
| Ancient Rome | Focus on reproduction, not pleasure |
| Courtly love | elegant & romantic; non sexual explicity |
| 17th& 18th century | Worked on the idea of a "happy ending" |
| Why is marrying for love popular in america | individualism, economic prosperity, lack of caste system or ruling class |
| Love | An intense feeling of deep affection |
| Sternbergs triangular theory of love | Combo of 8 triangle types of love |
| Intimacy | Feelings of warmth,sharing understanding |
| Commitment | Decision to devote and work to maintain relationship |
| Passion | Physical arousal, desire |
| Non-love | No components, more of an aquantance |
| Liking | Intimacy but no passion or commitment; like a friendship |
| Infatuation | Where you like them but its about passion, no intimacy or commit. ex: a crush youve never talked to |
| Empty Love | Commitment w/o intimacy or passion ex: pet love |
| Romantic Love | High intimacy, high passion, like no commitment- combo of liking and infatuation. Ex: summer camp short term relationship |
| Compassionate Love | What you want to hope for- Intimacy & commitment Close friends and family |
| Fatuous Love | Passion and commitment w/o intimacy- happens when 2 marry quickly and dont know eachother well |
| Consummate Love | Passion, commitment, intimacy. Hard to maintain overtime in a romantic relationship (The perfect couple) |
| Passion activates | Diff parts of the brain that affection and commitment do |
| Eros | Eager for intense relationship |
| Ludus | Player (men higher) |
| Storage | Committed (Women Higher) |
| Pragma | Practical (Women higher) |
| Agape | Altruistic |
| Mania | Demanding and possesive |
| Unrequited Love | Love someone who doesn't love you back. 80-90% of young adults |
| Unrequited love- why does it happen | High attracting- willing to want, Over estimates reciprocity of love, Rewards ( its harder being the person persued) |
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