Old greek view of love
only possible between men
Love first began to develop
in medieval France between knight and woman
Major change in view of love
in victorian era, novels and poems about it, major shift from COMMUNAL LIVING TO LIFE AS A COUPLE
Which period developed new expectations of love
victorian period. couples must fulfill each other's and children's needs
According to her, love consists of four factors.
1. Care 2. Responsibility 3. Respect 4. Knowledge
valuing based on knowledge
overly positive and obscured view of another when we think we love them but don't even know them.
infatuation through sexual attraction
Factors essential for attraction
1. physical appearance 2. competence 3. similarity 4. physical proximity 5. people who like us.
Men are more romantic than women, why
they fall in love sooner, cling more, get depressed for longer. Females more likely to end a relationship
Main worry for men in marriage
sexual infidelity - ****ing some dude
Main worry for women in marriage
that he likes someone else.
4 theories of love
Social exchange/Sternberg/LesliesSmith/HelenFischerevolutionary theory
Social Exchange Theory
that a relationship is worthwhile as long as benefits outweigh the costs
there are three parts to love- intimacy, passion, commitment. Consummate is all three.
Sternberg triangle model. Describe each part if you only have one side
1.ONLY INTIMACY ----liking. Only commitment ----empty love Only passion -----infatuation
Sternberg triangle model combos
intimacy and passion ---- romantic love intimacy and commitment ----companionate love passion and commitment------fatuous love
Even if people don't have all aspects of sternberg triangle, what is best?
that they have similar areas on triangle covered -
Leslie Smith's biological theory of love
As we grow we learn who we are by our interactions with others. We develop image our ourselves and allows us to realize what we like in other people. We have chemical attraction to others as well. We release DA and PEA, increases chemical bonding. Orgasms release oxytocin and vasopressin - which are attachment chemicals. After 4 yrs, we develop tolerance to these chemicals, effects subside, feeling decreases.
Helen Fischer - evolutionary theory of love
We love for purpose of sticking together and raising children. Brain lights up when we see people we love vs. those we do not love. We have 3 brain systems in mating and reproduction - 1. Lust - sex drive and libido to get us looking for mate 2. Romantic love obsessive thinking of someone 3. Attachment - security with that person. Men who have this live longer happier lives.
Japanese woodblock print "Reflected Moonlight"
anguish over lord
In % of species males contribute nothing to rearing of offspring
Prairie voles are ___ while mountain voles are____
prairie voles are companionate, mountain voles are not.