what determines whether anger is a healthy/unhealthy response?
if there's violence and domestic abuse
three anger signals
clenching teeth, shaking, red face
four things we can do to help us calm down
count to ten, take deep breaths, watch a movie, take a walk
person doesn't address conflict, lose-lose
person gives in to other person, lose-win
person views conflict as competition and pursues own goals, win-lose
satisfies some needs but not all needs and concerns, win-win
both parties work to satisfy as many needs of each other as can in conflict, win-win
identify the problem from their points of view, list all possible solutions to the conflict, eliminate the solutions they cannot accept, evaluate the solutions which are left, choose the solution most acceptable to both parties
being unable to express thoughts and feelings in a direct/firm manner. Ex: saying nothing when a roommate borrows your toothbrush
overly powerful, pushy, or hostile. Ex: throwing your dinner plate at your older brother when he makes fun of you
expressing your views clearly and respectfully. Ex: someone cuts in front of you in a line, and you say "hey, I was standing there"
statement focuses on your feelings rather than someone else's behavior. Ex: "I can't study for my test because your music is so loud", "I am upset because you borrowed my shirt without asking"
statement focuses on someone else's behavior rather than your feelings. Ex: "You are so selfish"
relating to someone's feelings. Ex: "I know what I did hurt you, and it was wrong"
paying close attention to what someone's saying. Ex: "I understand"
rephrasing speaker's words. Ex: "I know that Bob's a little sick and Angie's being a brat"
nonverbal communication, gestures, posture, behavior, etc. Ex: Angie slouched with her back to her friend, and her voice sounded broken
making all the "big" decisions
trying to make partner feel guilty about time spent with children
saying abuse didn't happen
coercion and threats
making a person do illegal things
preventing a person from getting a job
controlling what a person does, who they talk to, and where they go
minimizing, denying, blaming
attempting to make a person feel guilty
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a person refuses to believe the loss occured
a person blames himself or herself or others for the loss
making promises in the hope that what is true can be avoided
extreme sadness that lasts for more than a few days
a person begins to learn how to live with a loss