(monitoring our communication) we pay attention to our own communication, and the effect it has. we edit our thoughts before we say them.
communication about communication. this means that you are discussing the way you communicate, the process itself, whether in words or through your nonverbal communication.
we are able to understand both our own and another person's point of view, beliefs, thoughts, or feelings. (we also respect their right to a different point of view, even if we completely disagree)
we are likely to claim the good results come from our own efforts, and negative results are someone else's fault
fundamental attribution error
we overestimate the internal cause of others undesirable behaviors and underestimate the external causes, and do the reverse for ourselves.
the active process of creating meaning by selecting, organizing, and interpreting what is happening, this includes objects, events, situations, other people, and so on.
assessing ourselves in relation to others to form judgments of our own talents, abilities, etc. (and there is a social emphasis on perfection)
the most crippling kind of self-talk, where we tell ourselves that we are no good, or can't do something, that there is no point to change, and so on.
another's explicit labels of us and our behaviors AND reflected appraisal. both affect how we see ourselves.