Intimate Relationships (chp 11)
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nikkigoodman on November 9, 2011
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Terms | Definitions |
|---|---|
 Interpersonal Conflict | when one persons motives, goals, beliefs, opinions, or behavior interefere with another |
| dialects | motivations that can never be entirely satisfied because they contradict each other |
| autonomy and connection | dialect- tension between independence and wanting warm, close interdependence |
| openness and closedness | dialect- self-disclosure |
| stability and change | dialect- wanting to maintain and protect or valuing novelty |
| integration and seperation | dialect- wanting to be with friends or only with your lover |
| neuroticism, agreeableness | personaliy with more conflict... less conflict |
| anxious about abandonment | attachment higher in conflict |
| young adult | stage of life with more conflict |
| children and money | two biggest sources of conflict for middle aged |
| less similar | similarity level with more conflict |
| alcohol | substance that increases conflict |
| criticism | verbal and nonverbal acts that are percieved as demeaning |
| illegitimate demands | requests that seem unjust because they exceed normal expectations |
| rebuffs | one person appeals to another for a desired reaction that the other fails to provide |
| cumulative annoyances | relatively trivial events that become irritating with repetition |
| attributional conflict | fighting over whose explanation is right, its pointless |
| intentional betrayal | men are more likely to judge conflice as _________ than women |
| angier | expressing anger while you feel angry makes you _______ |
| avoidance | both partners evade an issue because it is not enough to argue about or when the dispute is subborn |
| negotiation | seeks rational problem solving to resolve conflict |
| escalation | when a conflict heats up, dysfunctional forms of communication |
| direct tactics | criticism, hostile commands for compliance, antagonistic questions, sarcastic put downs |
| indirect tactics | condescension, dysphoric affect, attempts to change topics, evasive remarks |
| negative affect reciprocity | when partners trade escalating provocations |
| demand/withdrawal | one member criticizes while the other becomes increasingly defensive |
| social structure | reason for demanders being women and withdrawalers being men because men have more power |
| voice | active and constuctive, trying to improve a conflict by discussing matters with a partner, changing ones behavior, and seeking valid advice |
| loyalty | passive and constructive, optimistically waiting for conditions to improve |
| exit | passive and constuctive, leaving a partner, hitting, etc. |
| neglect | passive and destructive, avoiding discussion and reducing interdependence |
| avoidance of intimacy | attachment that is passive and destructive |
| individualistic | people from __________ cultures tend to engage in more destruction |
| accomodation | the ability to remain constructive in the face of a lovers temporary disregard |
| volatile | couples that have frequent passinate arguments |
| validators | couples who fight politely with understanding |
| avoiders | couples who rarely argue, high ratio of rewards to costs |
| hostiles | couples who use too much criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and withdrawal |
| seperation | both partners withdrawal from conflict without offering solutions |
| domination | one partner gets his or her way after a conflict |
| compromise | both parties reduce their aspirations and a mutual agreement is found after a conflict |
| integrative agreements | satisfy both partners goals through creativity and flexibility to resolve a conflict |
| structural improvement | partners get what they want and learn an gow after significant turmoil |
| speaker-listener technique | a way for calm, clear communication and promotes active listening |
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