Geographical nearness, functional distance.
Anticipation of Interaction
We're biologically configured to look forward to seeing other people.
Tendency for novel stimuli to be liked more or rated more positively after the rater has been repeatedly exposed to them; exposure without awareness leads to liking.
Level of Aspiration Theory
Take ideal mate and subtract your own perceived shortcomings giving you your ideal.
Tendency for men and women to choose as partners those who are a "good match" in attractiveness and other traits.
Presumption that physically attractive people possess other socially desirable traits as well.
Contrast effect; we judge attractiveness based on who we're with.
Popularly supposed tendency, in a relationship between two people for each to complete what is missing in the other.
Use of strategies, such as flattery, by which people seek to gain another's favor.
How we feel about ourselves determines how we feel about our relationships (explains rebound relationships).
We tend to be more attractive to people who are initially punishing then rewarding, than those who are constantly rewarding; not nice to nice more attractive than always nice.
Reward Theory of Attraction
Theory that we like those whose behavior is rewarding to us or whom we associate with rewarding events.
Marriages for love versus arranged.
Affection we feel for those with whom our lives are deeply intertwined.
Condition in which the outcomes people receive from a relationship are proportional to what they contribute to it.
Revealing intimate aspects of oneself to others.
Reinforcement (Theories of Attraction)
Do this nonverbally by approaching others, touching them, etc.
Equity Theory of Attraction
Rewards over costs.
Balance Theory of Attraction
Drawing balanced triangles; similarity of partners, balance of likes and dislikes.
With repeated exposures we gravitate toward people similar to us.
Visual (Aspect of Attraction)
Pupils dilate when you see something appealing
Gaze (Aspect of Attraction)
Males look less, women look more. More eye contract = better relationship.
Touch (Aspect of Attraction)
____ does not lead to attraction, ____-ers are seen as more intimate.
Facial Expression (Aspect of Attraction)
Smiles are the best way to increase attractiveness. Females smile more. Submissive gesture.
Gestures and Postures (Aspect of Attraction)
Open body positions are seen as more attractive. Forward lean is important. Head nods = intimacy.
Paralanguage (Aspect of Attraction)
In conversation, much of the meaning is conveyed by facial expression, paraverbals, then actual words; your face says it.
Males more attracted to submissive features in females, females prefer the opposite.