intimate relationships test 4
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Terms | Definitions |
|---|---|
 interpersonal conflict | one person's wishes or actions interfere with the wishes or action of the other partner |
| autonomy-connection | desire for independence to a certain extent vs. the desire to be in connected relationships |
| openness-closedness | desire to have people know me and a desire to have certain things private |
| stability vs change | desire to keep our relationships the same vs. the desire for novel experiences |
| integration vs separation from others | integration: desire to keep other people in our lives with relationship segregation: only focus on partner in relationship, withdraw from other people |
| factors that influence conflict | personality, attachment, compatibility, alcohol, stage of life |
| 4 types of instigating events | criticism illegitimate demands rebuff cumulative annoyances |
| actor-observer effects | we are likely to interpret our own actions differently than we judge the same actions in somebody else |
| self-serving bias | judge ourselves more positively |
| attributional conflict | we agree on what happened but not on why. the why is what sparks the conflict |
| engagement | issue perceived as significant, but solvable, low risk in conflict so continues with conflict |
| avoidance | issue perceived as trivial or insolvable, high risk in conflict, conflict may end here. both partners evade issue |
| 4 types of response type | voice loyalty neglect exit |
| voice | direct negotiation, talking about it, changing behavior |
| loyalty | optimism, avoidance or indirect negotiation |
| neglect | avoiding the issue but don't believe things will get better, active withdrawal/invalidation of discussion |
| exit | direct escalation tactics, physical/emotional violence |
| 4 types of couple | avoiders hostiles volatile validators |
| avoiders | don't argue, fix it alone, wait it out |
| hostiles | fight to fight, escalate, end up hurting each other |
| volatile | frequent, passionate fights but intertwined with wit and fondness |
| validators | polite fighters, frequent validators |
| separation | one partner withdraws successfully |
| domination | one person gets what they want and the other person gives in |
| compromise | both partners reduce what they want to come to an agreement |
| integrative agreement | both get everything they wanted. creative solution to the conflict |
| structural improvement | relationship is improved by the outcome of the conflict |
| reward power | i can choose whether or not to give my partner something they want |
| coercive power | forcing something my partner does not want on them |
| legitimate power | have soe kind of authority that partner yields |
| referent power | accepting someone's authority because you respect and love them |
| expert power | one partner is better at something than the other, defer to them |
| informational power | have specific information that your partner wants and you will do anything to get it |
| personal phase | one or both partners is thinking about alternatives to the relationship |
| dyadic phase | unhappy partner discloses unhappiness to the other partner |
| social phase | talking to others that you are having problems in your marriage divorce happens in this phase |
| grave-dressing phase | after divorce, both partners are reliving memories of the marriage the morning phase |
| resurrection phase | move forward, start a new life |
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