Couples Assessment (Gottman)
|What are the couple's schema?||What are their myths, metaphors, love-phrases, humor,|
|How are they giving to each other ways and means to support their_________________ ?|| personal and|
|How is the marriage making their life more__________________?||colorful or easy|
|How do they:||Fight, discuss or make up?|
|Positive sentiment override:|| what are they positive about, what do they like about|
each other's endeavor, about their relationship, what are they proud of?
|What is their main dynamic?|| movement towards each other?|
are they antagonistic?
do they turn away from each other?
|Do they know what the other _________?||wants, needs personally, and needs for and from the relationship?|
|What are the traits that Gottman considers to lead to divorce early in marriage?|| lack of/poor communication, criticism, defensiveness, contempt and,|
|Late in marriage __________ may likely lead to divorce.||.. suppression of affect, actually a lack of positive general affect.|
|As soon as one or both people have an increased heart rate__________.||...there cannot be a calm exchange.|