What are the couple's schema?
What are their myths, metaphors, love-phrases, humor,
How are they giving to each other ways and means to support their_________________ ?
How is the marriage making their life more__________________?
colorful or easy
How do they:
Fight, discuss or make up?
Positive sentiment override:
what are they positive about, what do they like about
each other's endeavor, about their relationship, what are they proud of?
What is their main dynamic?
movement towards each other?
are they antagonistic?
do they turn away from each other?
Do they know what the other _________?
wants, needs personally, and needs for and from the relationship?
What are the traits that Gottman considers to lead to divorce early in marriage?
lack of/poor communication, criticism, defensiveness, contempt and,
Late in marriage __________ may likely lead to divorce.
.. suppression of affect, actually a lack of positive general affect.
As soon as one or both people have an increased heart rate__________.
...there cannot be a calm exchange.