lack of positive experience, feeling different, being the center of attention.
the fear associated with either the actual or anticipated communication as a speaker
- no voice speakers: feel alone, getting up in front of an audience makes them extra sensitive to their personal idiosyncrasies (traits), think no one will be interested in what they're going to say. -assume that being different means being inferior.
being the center of attention
- audience behaviors such as no eye contact can be disconcerting=think we must be doing something wrong. -negative thinking distracts from giving the speech don't think about "me"= makes you feel like your standing out even more. -audience doesn't notice much about what we don't want them to see if you have a well developed and effective speech.
- the moment someone finds out they need to give a speech -leads to unwillingness to plan= miss vital information necessary to fulfill the assignment -use stress reducing techniques
- some people get anxiety only when they being to prepare for a speech because they might feel overwhelmed by how much time and planning is required= procrastination -short relaxing breaths
- when they rehearse the speech, soon they'll face the audience. or as they rehearse, realize there ideas focused/ interesting. time is getting short - lead to stop rehearsing
-majority get nervous right before -most noticeable during introduction -control during this time makes the rest of the speech easy
use proven strategies to boost your confidence
prepare and practice, modify thoughts and attitudes, visualize success.
prepare and practice
- start preparing as soon as possible= more confident -rehearse several times
modify thoughts and attitudes
- think positively= reduce anxiety - regard your speech as valuable, worthwhile and challenging activity -opportunity toward personal growth. -think that your speech is an extension of ordinary conversation
- highly effective way to reduce nervousness
activate the relaxation response
meditate, stress control breathing, stretch
stress control breathing
- when you feel stressed you breath from your chest. -stage one: deep breaths until your in the rhythm of it -stage two: use soothing words - start stress control breathing several days before
use movement to minimize anxiety
practice natural gestures, move as you speak
practice natural gestures
-help enhance your speech
move as you speak
movement helps relieve tension and helps hold the audiences attention
learn from feedback
-you learn more when other people are giving you feedback -given in the spirit of helping you ti present your speech in the best of your ability.
steps in gaining confidence
- modify thoughts and attitude/ think positively - accept that nervousness is normal -think about your message not yourself -visualize success -deep breaths and stretch -use mind-focusing and relaxing techniques -seek pleasure in the occasion -learn from your experience