28 terms

Chapter 15 - Final

consensual validation
An explanation of why individuals are attracted to people who are similar to them. Our own attitudes and behavior are supported and validated when someone else's attitudes and behavior are similar to our own.
romantic love
Also called passionate love or eros, romantic love has strong sexual and infatuation components and often predominates in the early period of a love relationship.
affectionate love
In this type of love (companionate love), an individual desires to have the other person near and has a deep, caring affection for the other person.
A form of close relationship that involves enjoyment, acceptance, trust, respect, mutual assistance, confiding, understanding, and spontaneity.
leaving home and becoming a single adult
The first stage in the family life cycle. It involves launching.
The process in which youth move into adulthood and exit their family of origin.
new couple
Forming the new couple is the second stage in the family life cycle. Two individuals from separate families of origin unite to form a new family system.
becoming parents and a family with children
The third stage in the family life cycle. Adults who enter this stage move up a generation and become caregivers to the younger generation.
family with adolescents
The fourth stage of the family life cycle, in which adolescent children push for autonomy and seek to develop their own identities.
family at midlife
The fifth stage in the family life cycle, a time of launching children, linking generations, and adapting to midlife developmental changes.
family in later life
The sixth and final stage in the family life cycle, involving retirement and, in many families, grandparenting.
Sternberg's theory of triangular love
passion, intimacy, and commitment. All three of these need to be present for consummate love
physical and sexual attraction
feelings of emotion and closeness to one another
dedication to the relationship to see that it continues
Passion only
= infatuation or a fling with little intimacy and commitment
intimacy and commitment
affectionate love. the type of relationship that older married couples have
passion and commitment
fatuous love. when one person may worship another from a distance.
to reduce lonliness
join activities that include other people, know the signs of loneliness, diagram your social network, show positive behaviors when meeting new people, see a counselor or read a book.
myths of marital satisfaction
avoiding conflict with ruin your marriage, affairs are the main cause of divorce, men are not biologically made for marriage, men and women are from different planets.
factors of marital satisfaction (Gottman)
Partners in a marriage intimately know the other person's life and world, and partners are not afraid to share feelings, Nurturing fondness and admiration, turning towards each other and not away, letting your partner influence you, solving solvable conflicts, overcoming gridlock, creating shared meaning.
Bercheid's 4 forms of love
altruism, friendship, romantic or passionate love, affectionate love
healing activities for loneliness
reading, exercise, meditation
behavior exchange
the more rewards marital partners extend to each other, the more satisfied they are with their marriage. The more competent they are with relationship skills (communication) the higher the satisfaction
developmental contruction
each individual enters the marriage with a relationship history, with multiple contexts (such as relationships with parents or past relationships). These must all be considered for a successful relationship.
gender differences in intimacy
women are generally more expressive and affectionate.
advantage and disadvantage to being single
adv: time to make decisions about one's life course, time to develop personal resources to meet goals, freedom to make decisions, privacy, try new things.
dis: intimate relationships, confronting loneliness, finding a niche in a marriage oriented society.
consequences of divorce
women: feel abandoned
men: feel they have failed
if children: men usually have fewer rights and have less emotional support. Both are at risk for psychological and physical difficulties