On Course- Chapter 6: Gaining Self-Awareness
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recognize when they are off course; identify their self-defeating pattarns of thought, emotion, and behavior; and rewrite their outdated scripts.
wander through life unaware of being off course; remain unaware of their self-defeating pattarns of thought, emotion, and behavior; and unconsciously persist in making choices based on outdated scripts.
behavior that creates problems and interferes with longstanding goals
One of the most important discoveries in pyschology
is the existence and power of unconscious forces in our lives
Dr. Wilder Penfield of the Montreal Neurological Institute
found evidence that our brains may retain nearly every experience we have ever had. Performed brain surgery on patients who had local anesthesia but were otherwise fully awake.
Research by neuroscientist Joseph LeDoux
suggests that a part of our brains called the amygdala stores emotionally charged but now unconscious memories.
A psychological script
Is a person's ongoing program for his life drama which dictates where he's going with his life and how he is to get there.
What unconscious inner forces have been called
Ego defenses, conditioned responses, programs, mental tapes, blind spots, schemas, and life-traps.
Describes our unconscious internal forces and was coined by psychologist Eric Berne
Anatomy of a script
Composed of two parts; the top layer and the deep layer
The first part of our scripts
Closest to the surface of our awareness reside the directions for how we are to think, feel, and behave.
Include habitual self talk such as I'm too busy, I'm good at math, people different from me are a threat, I always screw up.
Include habitual feelings such as anger, excitement, anxiety, sadness, and joy
Include habitual actions such as smoking cigarettes, criticizing others, arriving on time, never asking for help, and exercising regularly
Second part of our scripts
Deeper in our unconscious mind lies our core beliefs. Early in life, we form court believes about the world, about other people, and about ourselves.
Factors that suggest how we write our scripts
How others responded to us, what significant adults said to us, and observing the behavior of significant adults
One of the great discoveries about the human condition is this:
We are not stuck with their personal scripts or cultural programming. We can re-create ourselves.
When we feel like mere passengers in life, with no apparent choice in where we're going
When we feel like the pilots of our lives, with the power to choose wisely and reach our goals and dreams
Psychologist Virginia Satir pointed out
That we are all living by rules, but the important issue is "have we chosen our own rules?"
First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt's life rules she created to guide her choices:
Do whatever comes your way as well as you can. Think as little as possible about yourself; think as much as possible about other people. Since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought in the happiness that you are able to give.
Three Success Rules
I show up, I do my best work, and I participate actively
Rule 1: I show up
Studies show a direct correlation between attendance and grades. How can you be successful at something if you're not there?
At Baltimore City Community College, a study found that
On average, as absences went up, grades went down.
A study by a business professor at Arizona State University showed that
On average, his students' grades went down one full grade for every two classes they missed.
Rule 2: I do my best work
Commit to doing your best work on all assignments, including turning them in on time.
Rule 3: I participate actively
Commit to getting involved. Come to class prepared. Listen attentively. Take notes. Read ahead. Think deeply about what's being said. Ask questions. Answer questions.
The key to your success
Is being aware of which choice leads to the future you want.
a term for the qualities that tell us what we "are not" or "should not be". They commonly include things like: don't be yourself, don't talk back, don't feel, don't think, don't be intimate, don't say no, don't say yes, don't get angry, don't trust others that are different than you, don't love yourself, don't be happy, or don't be weak.