MALES - Status, independence, advice, information, orders, conflict
FEMALES - Support, intimact, understanding, feelings, proposals, compromise
Accepts distinct ways of speech - takes many from Lakoff. Argues childhood friendships affect how we speak. Boys like gangs of friends and fight for positions and work out place. Girls have one or two best friends so support and nurture and take turns. Not to show dominance over women, but with other males as well as women.
Involvement strategies used in speech. Speech as three way system, not as: speaker > topic > listener
Two types - sound and meaning