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Elder Richard G. Scott said "one of the greatest blessings we can offer to the world is the power of a Christ-centered home" where what three things occur?
Gospel is taught
Covenants are kept
The Lord has counseled us to be "more diligent and concerned at home." Elder Bednar offered three suggestions as to how we could do that. Name them.
Express Love- and show it
Bear Testimony- and live it
What did Elder Hales say is the key to strengthening our families?
Having the Spirit of the Lord come into our homes.
When children test family values, it is important to apply the seven-word counsel given by Elder Hales. What was it?
Act with faith; don't react with fear.
President Eyring said if we want eternal life, it must be more than our hope. What must it be?
President Eyring counseled us to plan for success, not failure. He said planning for failure can make failure more likely and the ideal less so. What specific counsel did he give to young women and young men to help them achieve the ideal?
"Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ."
It takes courage and faith to plan for what God holds before you as the ideal rather than what might be forced upon you by mortal circumstances.
Name the four elements of the law of forgiveness.
Look for the good and not the bad in others
if we are guilty of something that hurts of offends another, we must take responsibility apologize and try to fix any wrongs.
to be forgiven we must be willing to forgive others.
To be forgiven, we must forgive in the heart.
Elder Holland said those who feel no need for mercy usually never do what two things?
Usually never seek it
Almost never bestow it.
When it comes to hating, gossiping, ignoring, ridiculing, holding grudges, or wanting to cause harm to others, President Uchtdorf said we should apply a two- word counsel. What was it?
True or False: True forgiveness requires forgetting.
What is the mission of the Church? Husbands and wives? Parents?
Church: to bring souls to Christ
Spouse: bring spouse to Christ
Parents: to bring children to Christ
What does it mean to bring someone to Christ?
Help them decide to live the gospel
Identify and describe four practices of happiness.
Learn to minister.
Take the focus off yourself and turn outward.
Express and show gratitude
Identify, understand and help meet the basic underlying needs of your partner.
to minister is to extend friendship, kindness, charity and service (bringing someone to Christ). It is recognizing and attending to needs etc.
How did the Savior minister? He LISTENED. He was patient. He put himself and his own needs second. He believed in his followers. He did not overwhelm. He did not try to control or compel them.
What is the divine motive?
love I suppose. He didn't answer this question
Why did President Hinckley say so many people are miserable?
The most miserable people are those who are obsessed with themselves.
What question did President Eyring's father suggest represents a true measure of what we love the most?
What do you think about when you don't have anything else to think about.
What did President Benson suggest is the root of ingratitude?
What did President Monson say is the finest formula for a happy marriage?
Think to thank
10. Complete the following: _______________ precedes ______________ and _______________ precedes ______________.
What did both President Benson and President Kimball say is the root of most sin?
Unmet underlying needs.
Name and describe the seven basic underlying needs of human beings
Crucial as an acronym
C: Competence; achievement
R: Reconciliation with God; most basic and strongest of all the other needs.
U: Uncertainty/variety/ spontaneity; we might not have all of these needs, one might be stronger than the other. Get out of the rut etc.
C: Certainty- assurances, know what to expect/depend on.
I: Independence- individual power; personal growth.
A: Acceptance; closeness, intimacy, uniqueness, significance.
L: Love; understanding, friendship, romance, sex.
In Ephesians 4, Paul warned against any type of corrupt communication because it grieves or drives the Spirit away. Specifically, he warned against bitterness, anger, backbiting and malice. In contrast, he said our communication should always be edifying. He then described three characteristics of edifying communication. What were they?
Speaking to the Hebrews, Paul noted two sacrifices we must be willing to make to please God. What were they?
In his talk, "The Tongue of Angels," what did Elder Holland specifically warn men about in their communication patterns?
To never verbally abuse your wife.
In his talk, "The Tongue of Angels," what three things did Elder Holland specifically warn women about in their communication patterns?
In his talk, "The Tongue of Angels," Elder Holland counseled parents regarding two things they should do and two things they should not do. What were they?
Be constructive in your comments to a child- always.
Praise each child individually for what that child is and help them escape our culture's obsession with comparing, competing, and never feeling enough.
Never tell them, even in whimsy, that they are inadequate in any way.
Never compare your children.
Elder Holland quoted Orson F. Whitney. What did Elder Whitney say we are like when we have the Spirit of the Lord? What are we like when we don't have the Spirit of the Lord?
Optimistic, trusts God and looks on the bright side of things.
Pessimistic spirit drags men down and away from God, looks on the dark side, murmurs, complains, and is slow to yield obedience.
In class, we described three ways in which the Savior communicated. Name them.
Communicated with words and acts of love.
Jesus communicated with the Spirit.
The Savior communicated from a good and pure heart. Was humble and meek. His words were edifying.
Describe the six negative patterns of communication (from John Gottman), discussed in class, that arise from an impure heart.
Criticism: Attacking a person's character,
Defensiveness: justifying behavior etc. Counter attacking.
Contempt: Disgust; making someone feel inferior, foolish, incompetent etc.
Stonewalling: Avoiding or withdrawing from conflict and the relationship. Silent treatment. The stonewaller acts as if he couldn't care less about what the partner says or feels.
Intimidation: Using anger, threats, ultimatums. stare-downs. Intimidating with physical size or intellectual prowess.
Manipulation: Acting hurt (moping or pouting) to get sympathy and attention. Withholding or using physical affection to get something.
Complete the following: Learn to __________ and _________ to learn.
Validating feelings involves recognizing someone's feelings and acknowledging them as important. It is helping the other person feel loved and understood.
In class, we discussed six ways to validate feelings. Name them.
1. really listen
2. Be present
3. Summarize feelings
4. Put yourself in their shoes.
5. Reinforce the normalcy of the feelings
6. Show genuine empathy and sympathy.
Complete the following statement from Stephen R. Covey: "Seek first to _____________________, then to be ____________________."
In class, we discussed five reasons why conflict arises in relationships. Name them.
1. We are too quick to jump to conclusions and to judge others.
2. We take offense too easily.
3. We make personal opinions more important than people or relationships
4. We believe the false doctrine that contention is normal and acceptable.
5. We are full of pride. Pride blinds us to our own weaknesses and causes us to justify pointing out the faults of others.
6. Unrealistic expectations
True or False: Being offended is a choice we make, not a condition imposed upon us.
True or False: Contention is inevitable in all relationships, including marriage and family relationships.
President Monson: never let a ___ to be ___ become more important than a ___ to be ____
The first principle of conflict resolution discussed in class was to check your _____________ at the door.
What is the higher ground principle?
Setting the example of what you would have him be.
What are the two main reasons why people fail to follow the higher ground principle?
What did President Harold B. Lee say is the opposite of love?
Experts say about ________ percent of all couple issues will resolve themselves if they are discussed and understood.
Complete the following quote from B. H. Roberts: "With ___________, let there be ___________; in _______________, let there be ______________; and in all things, let there be ________________.
What is the grapefruit syndrome?
Pin pricking, nagging about preferences instead of just letting them go.
Recently, AMCAP identified __________________ as the greatest source of conflict of couples entering marriage.
What three things does the law of the harvest teach us?
We reap what we sow
We sow and reap in different seasons. Reciprocation comes with time.
Harvests vary; some are less plentiful than others. Small efforts may bring larger than expected returns, and large efforts may not bring proportional harvests.
Drawing from the Hebrew words for both "help" and "meet," what did Elder Hafen say is the meaning of the word "helpmeet."
The original Hebrew for meet means that Eve was adequate for, or equal to, Adam. She wasn't his servant or his subordinate. And the Hebrew for help in "help meet" is ezer, a term meaning that Eve drew on heavenly powers when she supplied their marriage with the spiritual instincts uniquely available to women as a gender gift.
In Genesis 3:16, Eve was told that Adam would "rule over" her? How did Elder Hafen interpret the words "rule" and "over?" What word did President Kimball substitute for the word "rule?"
Genesis 3:16 states that Adam is to "rule over" Eve, but this doesn't make Adam a dictator. A ruler can be a measuring tool that sets standards. Then Adam would live so that others may measure the rightness of their conduct by watching his. Being a ruler is not so much a privilege of power as an obligation to practice what a man preaches. Also, over in "rule over" uses the Hebrew bet, which means ruling with, not ruling over. If a man does exercise "dominion ... in any degree of unrighteousness" (D&C 121:37; emphasis added), God terminates that man's authority.
Perhaps because false teachings had twisted original scriptural meanings, President Spencer W. Kimball (1895-1985) preferred "preside" rather than "rule."
True or False: Spouses are not equal unless they perform the same functions.
Why, did Sheri Dew say, God made men and women alike? Why did he make them different?
Our Father knew exactly what He was doing when He created us. He made us enough alike to love each other, but enough different that we would need to unite our strengths and stewardships to create a whole. Neither man nor woman is perfect or complete without the other.
To women, Sheri Dew suggested that no amount of time in front of a mirror will make you as attractive as ___________
Having the Holy Ghost with you.
6. To men, Sheri Dew said: "Your ordination to the priesthood is not a _____________________, but is given you to __________________.
your ordination to the priesthood is a grand privilege and responsibility, and not a license to dominate.
In class, we discussed five principles that make equal partnership in marriage possible. Name them.
Shared Vision and understanding of what it means to be equal partners
The Proclamation teaches us that, by divine design, fathers are primarily responsible to do what three things in the home?
Preside, Provide, and Protect
The Proclamation teaches us that, by divine design, mothers are primarily responsible for ______________.
the nurture of their children
True or False: In the home, the husband acts as "president" and the wife acts as "vice-president."
When couples are united, they share _______ which lead to common _______.
Trust = ____________________ + ___________________.
Name two important reasons why we need the Spirit to achieve equal partnership in marriage
1. tell you all things what ye should od
2. Show you all things what ye should do
3. Sanctification of their hearts.
(might be an optional third, not sure though)
In D&C 93, what did the Lord command parents to do? We keep that commandment by teaching them correct principles. What specifically did the Lord command parents to teach to their children in D&C 68.
Bring up your children in light and truth.
Understand doctrine of repentance, faith in Christ, baptism and the Gift of the Holy Ghost when eight years old.
Parents should discipline their children according to principles of righteousness. According to D&C 121, what are some of those principles?
by persuasion, by long-suffering, by gentleness and meekness, and by love unfeigned;
42 By kindness, and pure knowledge, which shall greatly enlarge the soul without hypocrisy, and without guile—
43 Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love
Leadership of the family is a man's most important and sacred responsibility. What two things did President Hunter say effective family leadership requires?
Quantity and Quality time.
4. Presiding in righteousness necessitates a shared responsibility between husband and wife. If a man operates independent of or without regard to the feelings and counsel of his wife in governing the family, of what did President Hunter say he is guilty?
5. In cases of divorce or separation, what did President Hunter say the Lord requires of the husband and father?
Meet family support payments.
As patriarch in the home, in what two ways did President Hunter say fathers should exercise their priesthood?
performing the appropriate ordinances for your family
and by giving blessings to your wife and children
What pernicious philosophy did Elder Christofferson say undermines women's moral influence?
the devaluation of marriage and of motherhood and homemaking as a career.
What was the third area of concern, mentioned by Elder Christofferson that threatens the moral influence of women?
A third area of concern comes from those who, in the name of equality, want to erase all differences between the masculine and the feminine.
What or who did President Benson say is the "best teacher?"
a good model
What three things did President Monson say we cannot afford to neglect?
family scripture study
family home evening
President Hunter said true greatness is a long-term process that requires what?
True greatness requires consistent, small, and sometimes ordinary and mundane steps over a long period of time.
Love should be the guiding principle in all discipline, the Lord said: "Reproving betimes with sharpness, when moved upon by the Holy Ghost; and then showing forth afterwards an increase of love." What do the words betimes and sharpness mean? How can you know if you are being moved upon by the Holy Ghost to discipline?
The Holy Ghost will move use to discipline or correct using the principles of righteousness as follows:
Betimes: quickly, early on; before it's too late
Sharpness: with clarity, precision, and directness.
Section 83 teaches us about a husband's financial responsibility to his wife or ex-wife and a father's responsibility to his children. We are told that a wife has claim upon her husband until he is "taken." What does that mean? Then, we are told that children have claim upon their parents for their maintenance until they (the children) are of "age." What does that mean?
In section 104, the Lord said he created the heavens and the earth. Hence, what does he conclude? He goes on to say that His desire is to provide for His saints. What is His way of doing that?
All things are His
the poor shall be exalted, in that the rich are made low.
In section 104, the Lord expresses His will that we should pay all our debts. He promises to help us if we do what three things?
Exercise a prayer of faith.
In class, we discussed four reasons why self-reliance is so important: Two from President Packer and two from the Handbook of Instructions. Name them.
Packer: Fundamental to happiness
Packer: If we lose our emotional and spiritual indepedence we can lose the power of individual (personal) revelation.
Handbook: Better prepared to endure adversities
Handbook: better able to care for others in need.
What did President Hinckley say is the root of more problems in marriage than all other causes combined?
True or False: Most problems with money occur because individuals and families don't have enough money to make ends meet.
Name the five constants taught by President Tanner.
1. Pay an honest tithing
2. Live on less than you earn (two goals: avoid debt and saving money each month). The key is discipline.
3. Distinguish between needs and wants
4. Develop and live within a budget.
5. Be Honest
What was the first constant, and the one President Tanner said would have more to do with our financial well-being than any other?
Pay an honest tithe
President Hinckley said: "The Lord will open the windows of heaven according to our ______________, and not according to our _______________.
What two goals should we have in striving to live on less than we earn?
Stay out of debt
Saving money every month
What is the key to living on less than we earn?
In class, we discussed six (eight) prophetic counsels regarding career development. Name them.
1. Discipline yourself to take advantage of educational opportunities
2. We have an obligation to train our hands and minds to excel in the work of the world for the blessing of all mankind
3. We need to seek work to which we are suited by interest, aptitude, and training.
4. Work should do more than provide adequate income; it should provide a sense of self-worth and be pleasure- something you look forward to each day
5. The development of Christlike attributes will influence our careers even more than education. Some of these virtues are: integrity, dependability and character.
6. not the geniuses that make a difference in this world, the work of the world is done largely by men and women of ordinary talent you have learned to work in an extraordinary manner.
7. Willing to do more than is expected.
8. "Mr. Smith, I think in time you may perhaps find that most of the work in the world is done by people who aren't feeling very well."