- Once upon a time, there was a boy called Narcissus. He was the son of a god and he was very, very handsome. Many women fell in love with him, but he turned them away. One of the women who loved Narcissus was a nymph called Echo. Echo could not speak properly - she could only repeat what was said to her, so she couldn't tell Narcissus that she loved him. One day, when Narcissus was walking in the woods with some friends, he became separated from them. He called out "Is anyone here?" Echo replied "Here, Here". Echo stepped forward with open arms, wanting to cuddle him. But Narcissus refused to accept Echo's love. Echo was so upset that she left and hid in a cave, until nothing was left of her, except her voice.
The Maiden, a goddess, found out about this, and she was very angry. She made Narcissus fall in love with himself. When Narcissus looked at his reflection in a pond one day, he fell in love. He stayed on that spot forever, until he died one day. Where he died a flower grew, and that flower is called a Narcissus.
• While few would deny that self-centeredness and greed are largely responsible for current economic woes, Florida State University business professor Wayne Hochwarter agrees with Twenge when it comes to the root cause of the entitled mentality. His recent study shows "much of it has to do with society and the way parents raise their special little angels, the pace of life with MTV and video games. Young people have a bit of a struggle with delayed gratification," not because they were born that way, but because their parents conditioned them, he said.
• Materialism is the most visible manifestation of entitlement, but many young people who watched their parents' challenges as well, and came to the conclusion that "I'm looking out for myself. I saw mom and dad stay with the company for 38 years and I'm not going to get laid off like they did."
• Hochwarter said while many adults focus on the negatives and the lack of true physical labor many young people were spared, he sees college students being "a lot more similar to other generations than different. To some extent think this whole entitlement stuff is a way of ruffling the feathers of the older generation." And attacking one's work ethic is the answer, he said.
• "We're going to talk about how the younger generation is easing through life and older workers are busting it. Sure there's a bit to the entitlement mentality, but every generation has had their stuff. In the '60s it was being rebellious, in the '70s it was doing drugs, in the '80s we were materialistic."
• He sees some evidence of self-centeredness, but, Hochwarter said, "it's not as big a deal as I think some think it is. I see more similarities (between generations) than differences." He lauds the technological ability of young people and said employers would do well to put their skills to good use rather than trying to stuff them into the same mold that fit their baby boomer parents.
were roughly twice as likely to suffer from depressed mood (i.e., blues, having trouble getting going, sadness, and helplessness) at work.
... reported exhaustion levels (i.e., tired, weary, and worn out) approximately 33% higher.
... reported 50% more work-generated home conflict (i.e., can't get things done at home, not enough time, and edginess).
... reported levels of negative emotions (i.e., irritable, hostile, guilty) at a level 25% higher.
...reported 33% more work-related sleep disorders.
The boss doesn't always have the best tools. Often, bosses haven't been trained how to manage people, or those they do supervise aren't great employees, either.
"We take people and we put them in these situations and we give them the employee handbook, and they learn how many vacation days Tony can have, and they need to know what happens when Sally gets pregnant, but the whole notion of humanity . . . we don't teach managers that," he said.
A lot of bosses don't have much to work with. You know the resources they have left, the people they have left, are fewer. And in many cases, the employees they have are not as good as they used to be — for a lot of different reasons."