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Health, Chapter 6 "Building Healthy Peer Relationships", Section 3: Responsible Relationships, pp. 148-151


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feelings of intense attraction to another person especially when they are short-term or temporary and idealized
How do teenagers typically get to know people to whom they are attracted? (¿Cómo llegan a conocer a la gente hacia quien sienten atracción?)
By dating
What does dating help do?
You can learn about his or her personality, interests, abilities and values. You can also learn how the other person views gender roles and it helps you practice your communication skills.
If you are not ready to date, how can you meet some people, or get to know some people, you might be interested in dating eventually?
By going out as a group. In a group, you can see how people behave (se portan, se comportan) when they are with others. They can also learn more about you.
If you discover that you really enjoy being with a certain friend (con cierto/a amigo/a), feel a physical attraction to that person and you want to get to know this person better, what can you do?
You could go out (salir) as a couple (como pareja)
What is it called when a couple decide not to date other people and just to see each other on a regular basis?
Steady dating...or "going steady"
What are some disadvantages of steady dating?
You limit your chances of meeting other people you might like and who might be good for you. You may feel pressure to get serious quickly and to make decisions about sexual intimacy (intimidad sexual). It may be hard to end a steady dating relationship if things start to go wrong.
What are some disadvantages of getting married as teens?
You may lack job skills, emotional maturity (madurez emocional)...you may also lose your freedom and lose shared activities with friends (perder tu libertad y las actividades antes compartidas con amigos).
What is dating violence?
It's a pattern of emotional, physical, or sexual abuse that occurs in a dating relationship. One partner uses the abuse to gain control of the other partner (para llegar a controlar a la otra persona).
What are the 3 stages of the cycle of violence?
1. tension-building stage; 2. violent episode; 3. calm or "honeymoon" stage (stage = fase o etapa)
What is the tension-building stage?
The victim may try to please (complacer) the abuser (abusador, abusadora) in order to prevent violence (para impedir o evitar la violencia). Sometimes victims call this stage (etapa) "walking on eggshells" (caminar sobre las cáscaras de huevo....o sea intentar pisar muy cuidadosamente como para no molestar)
What happens during the calm or "honeymoon" (luna de miel) stage after a violent episode?
The abuser may apologize & promise never to abuse the victim again. The abuser may blame the victim (culpar a la víctima por haber provocado su ira). The abuser may also shower the victim with affection & gifts (cubrir a la víctima con muestras de cariño y regalos).
What are some of the warning signs that can lead to abuse (señales de advertencia que pueden llevarle al abuso, encauzarle al abuso)?
Your date (tu pareja)...
is jealous of you when you talk to others;
makes fun of you in front of others (se burla de ti delante los demás),
makes all the decisions & tries to control you,
has a history of bad relationships,
isolates you from friends & family (te aisla de amigos y familiares),
makes you feel less confident (menos confiado) & worry about doing or saying the right thing.
What is date rape?
It is when a rape (una violación) occurs during a date (durante una cita). (Violación = asalto sexual; obligar a alguien a someterse a relaciones sexuales en contra de su voluntad)
What is a "date rape drug"?
A fast-acting drug that is colorless, tasteless & odorless that is put in food or a drink. The victim will feel "hung over" (se sentirá mareado / mareada, experimentará la resaca, "la cruda") & will not be able to defend herself or himself. The victim cannot stop the attacker and will not remember the rape (clearly).
Why do some teens stay in an abusive relationship?
They may see it as romantic & passionate. They may see other friends or family in similar relationships & think it's normal. Some may fear being alone. Some may feel they deserve (merecen) the abuse.
How can you end an abusive relationship if you are in one?
Admit the abuse exists. Realize you're not to blame (darse cuenta que no es culpable por el abuso) & you can't change the way the other person acts. Seek the support of friends & family. Call an abuse hotline or talk to a counselor (consejero), teacher, doctor or social worker (trabajador social). These adults are legally required to report abuse (legalmente estas últimas personas tienen que reportar el abuso).