Conjoint family counselling strategies
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Patterns of engagement
- influenced by the client and preference of the therapist
-try to match the choice of engagement with the emotional climate of the family system, as well as the relationship with the client (visitor, complainant + customer)
- also don't give visitors tasks ( rather host them and welcome them back), set complainants observation tasks ( they think other people have the problem and need to change) , invite customers to engage in between sessions/ tasks
- whatever pattern, needs to stay connected to everyone in the room
- individual ( one person whilst others listen in) / collective ( dyad, subsystem or whole group)/ reciprocal ( therapist facilitates interaction between individuals and subsystems - gets them to talk to one another)
- diverting the focus and energy of convo from present or past experiences to future hopes and goals ( problem talk to solution talk)
- reflecting or translating or adding to potentially 'toxic' client comments about other participants to encourage more reflective rather than retaliatory postures among listeners ( keep them listening rather than arguing back)
- focusing the discussion of 'desired change' to encourage well formed goals. 'what would Bill see if Jean was showing respect'
- widening the lens to explore the thematic significance of desired change
- inviting clients to consider and express desired change in relationship or interactional terms
- identifying commonalities or shared stories in peoples experiences and hopes
tracking and linking
-monitoring and connecting each person's hopes and goals in a an inclusive way
- clarifying which issues and requests need the most immediate attention, and identifying a starting point for change
- benefit of the therapist to the client's context - learning about the family events, background, what brought them to therapy -> formulate a treatment plan
- seek to invite a change in the clines doing or viewing around their problems and preferences- 'what are your main hopes in coming here?'
- highlighting differences and exploring relationship connections
- differences across time - when was the problem least evident?
- differences between people - who shows the most concern about the problem
- differences between parts of a person - is your dad's tender side or his gruff side easier to se?
- differences between situations - do you think her behaviour is better at home or school?
- connections about behaviour - when the family argue does that bring you closer together or further apart?
- connections about feelings - when you spend long periods of feeling angry at each other, how does that impact on your relationships?
- connections about meanings - what do you think Bill's desperation about his relationship is connected to deep down?
- connections about relationships - when your dad recognises your good efforts, does that make you feel closer to him or more distant?
outsider perspective questions
Asking person A how persons B,C + D might view their actions
Asking person A to speculate on B's experience of them
preferred self questions
Asking A how she wants to be viewed by B, C + D