Family Comm Exam 3
UofU Ashley Elrick
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Which database do you used to search for articles?
Communication and Mass Media Complete
If the goal is not to be conflict free, what is it?
Learn to understand, communicate, and manage
What is the definition of conflict?
"An expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties, who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the other party in achieving their goals."
Family conflict comes in ________
All Shapes and Sizes
What are some examples of:
Conflict regarding technology?
Small = who takes out trash. Large= financial problems, debt, affair. Conflict regarding technology = miscommunication when sending texts
What are the 6 stages of ongoing conflict?
1. Prior condition
2. Frustration awareness
3. Active conflict
4. Solution or nonsolution
5. Follow-up stage
6. Resolution stage
Does conflict have to follow these stages exactly?
No, hardly ever do.
What road design was used to conceptualize the stages?
A roundabout. Once you enter the conflict you can go around and around. More people can enter and leave the conflict. Once you exit the conflict you can move on without looking back.
What are the 5 conflict styles from Kilmann & Thomas?
How are they defined?
1. Competing (I win)
2. Collaborating (all win)
3. Compromising (win/loss)
4. Accommodation (you win)
5. Avoiding (refuses to engage)
What is a demand/withdraw pattern?
Can you describe how this fits the video clip?
One spouse enacts a complaining or nagging behavior while the other spouse withdraws and tries to avoid conflict
How I met your Mother clip
What are Gottman's 3 couple types for conflict?
Validating (respect the other's view and try to compromise)
Volatile (comfortable with disagreement and lack harmony)
Conflict Avoiders (avoid conflict, partners please other rather than meet their own needs)
What are the four horsemen of the apocalypse?
What is an example of each?
1. Criticism (focus on the person's character)
2. Contempt (criticism with intention to insult and psychologically abuse the other person)
3. Defensiveness (natural response to criticism and contempt)
4. Stonewalling (partner removed self either emotionally or physically)
What is serial arguing?
A pattern of disagreements reoccurring on a given subject
What are the 3 components of serial arguing?
1. Argumentative episodes (start to end of active conflict)
2. Issue Focus (specific to abstract)
3. Reoccurrence (at least twice)
Explain deductive conflict and the two types
Deductive Conflict: behaviors that escalate a conflict until it seems to have a life of its own which dysfunctional and destructive.
1. Covert (hidden - emotions are hidden and messages are often unclear, burning of dinner)
2. Overt (open, verbal and physical aggression that can lead to violence, hostile words, throwing items)
Define constructive conflict and the 3 aspects of it
Behaviors that are adaptive to the situation, person, and issues of the moment that are functional and constructive
2. Fair fighting
3. Managing the physical environment
What are some examples of predictable stress?
Births, graduation, parenthood, retirement
What are marker events?
The transition points in human development. Baby's first steps
Define the developmental stages approach
Normal and predictable changes occurring throughout our lives
What is the life-course approach?
Focuses on transitions and trajectories. How it effects the WHOLE family. How events and their timing in the lives of individuals effect families (retirement, teenage Drivers License)
On-time vs. off time?
1. On-time: life events occurred at a period in the life-course considered "normal" based on social/historical norms (married at 25)
2. Off-time: life event occurred at an "abnormal" time (pregnant at age 15)
What is individual, generational, & historical time?
Individual time - your age.
Generational time - family time or the roles individuals hold in families.
Historical time - events that occur in the era of their life (Olympics)
What is the family structure shape changing to?
Rectangle - something about parents living longer and their kids having less kids
What are the 6 stages of the family life cycle?
1. Single young adults
2. The couple
3. Families with young children
4. Families with adolescents
5. Launching children
6. Families in later life
Why are these traditional model considered too simplistic?
Numerous children, large age gaps, childless partners, gay and lesbian families
What are the big concerns in the single young adult stage?
More financial stress, want to establish self, unattached, slide into marriage
What are examples of relational terminology and nonverbal artifacts?
Relational Terminology: Girlfriend, partner, fiancée, partner
Nonverbal Artifacts: Rings, tattoos
What are some reasons that couple may not follow a linear path of relationship development?
Children from previous relationships, pregnancy, legal restrictions, unemployment, welfare rules, poverty
What are the stresses of the first child? Small child? School-aged children?
First Child: Roles must be renegotiated. Couples with careers tend to delay parenthood, what to name the child/names for family member.
Small child: birth order effect, additional more children means more stress.
School-aged: even more connection to the outside world (pick the school, just not what happens in the school)
What are some off-time events for adolescences?
Getting pregnant early, underage drinking, makeup too early or too late
What are the 5 areas of potential change in midlife?
1. Transition to adult-adult relationship with children
2. Changes in partnership functioning
3. Expansion of family
4. Opportunities to resolve relationships with aging parents
5. Opportunities to revitalize sibling ties.
What increases happiness for older family members?
More visitation from the family
Who is typically the caregiver of the family?
What occurs at transitions between stages?
What statement highlights the idea of unpredictable stress?
"I never thought this would happen to me."
Explain how stress can be positive and/or negative. Mixed?
Positive (wedding) Negative (accident). Mixed? Death of family member and getting the inheritance
Define strain, stressor events, trauma, and coping
Strain: that tension or difficulty sensed by family members which indicates that change is needed in their relationships and family environment.
Stressor Events: Characterized by unexpectedness, greater intensity, longer duration, and their undesirability and serious effects.
Trauma: stress so great and unexpected that it cannot be defended against, coped with or managed.
What is ambiguous loss? What are the 2 types & examples?
"Considered the most stressful type of loss because it defies resolution and creates long term confusion about who is in or out of a particular couple or family."
1. Physically absent but psychologically present (lost kid)
2. Physically present but psychologically absent (Alzheimer's disease)
What are the 4 components of the Double ABCX Model?
A: Stressor (event or transition)
B: Resources (money, time, space, friends)
C: Importance of stressor
Define and provide an example of the stages of family crisis?
Shock/Denial: deny event.
Depression: overwhelming sadness
Reorganization: moving on
What are support groups? Online support groups?
Groups of others who share similar experiences.
Internet groups allows for people to come together with rare issues or are uncomfortable with in-person support.
What is the different between reactors and actors?
Reactors: Life happens to them and they have no ability to change (Eeyore)
Actors: Believe they can make personal changes (Tigger)
Explain the idea of mutual influence between health and family communication
Health influences family; family influences health
What are the aspects of health status and family?
Married adults are healthier than unmarried adults. Connection between abnormal/problematic families and mental health
What health behaviors can family influence?
Health-promoting behaviors (exercise, diet)
Health risk reduction behaviors (e.g., not smoking)
What are the 3 rules family can create?
1. Abstinence rules (don't drink until 21)
2. Contingency rules (if you drink, don't drive)
3. Call-Me Rule (call me if you are in danger)
How are families involved in health-care interactions?
Members attend each other's doctor appointments as informal health-care advocates. Able to model the process, ask questions, recall details, and provide support.
Why must discussions of illness be tailored for children?
Kids don't usually understand and will get scared easily. Can't rationalize the illness. Be tailored to their developmental stage
What is affectionate communication?
An individual's intentional and overt enactment or expression of feelings of closeness, care, and fondness for another. Intentional.
The name for the first person of a family is diagnosed with a genetic condition
Why can disclosure of genetic results vary?
A very personal decision who to disclose to, however if its something genetically in the family you have more of a responsibility to share.
What is cyberbullying?
Deliberate and repeated harm directed through computers/phones
How is cyberbullying different than "traditional" bullying?
Can be a 24/7 experience. Shared to much more wide audience and can go viral. Bullies can be anonymous
What are the 4 personal approaches for improving family communication?
1. Personal Education - through books, media, websites, courses
2. Personal Negotiations - identify issues and make changes to affect another family member
3. Time commitments - planned time for the family to talk
4. Support Networks - friends or others to help face family problems
What is the purpose of instructional approaches?
Provide education not therapy. Help healthy relationships develop better communication and conflict resolution skills. Lots of versions available.
Which is the most beneficial type of instructional program?
Combination of in-person and self-directed programs is the most beneficial.
What is the goal of family therapy?
Identify family patterns and help family members develop skills to break the habits and negotiation changes over time. Don't give a man a fish, teach him how to fish.