RC: communication behaviors that carry meaning about the affection or caring
- the meanings can strengthen or weaken the relationship
Arise from family of origin patterns
Currencies can be direct statements or require more interpretation
Ex: wickie wacky cake - gives her husband a cake to show she is happy.
Types: positive verbal statements, self-disclosure, listening, nonverbal affect displays, touch, sexuality, aggression, gifts, money, food, favors, service, staying in touch, time together, access rights.
Discussions on sexuality support a sense of family connectedness.
- These discussions are occurring more frequently now, why? Due to Greater society openness, media treatment of sexuality, concerns for sexual health, higher levels of parent willingness to discuss it.
Mother discuss more frequently than fathers and more often with daughters.
Mother-daughter discussions on condoms report more consistent use.
Fathers discuss resisting pressures and understanding men, when talking to daughter.
Effective Parent-Child Communication about Sex: (Warren & Neer)
- Satisfaction with family discussion about sex is dependent on mutual dialogue (child and parent involvement)
- The ability to communicate supportively about sex revolves around an attitude of openness. Talk with, not at.
- For greater impact, start discussing early and often (before 16)
- Children model the patterns found in their homes and will be similar with their partner.
Sexually Neglectful Families: Sex is seldom or never addressed
Sexually Abusive Families: Perpetrator - victim interaction pattern with limited communication.
Sexually Healthy Families: Respect both genders, boundaries are appropriate and supportive, effective and flexible communication, shared system of culturally relevant values.