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FRHD2100 Ch 7
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SOMETHING about 5 phases of a relationship
- Follows initial attraction
- established patterns of interaction remain relatively stable.
- While these patterns often continue, they don't remain entirely static
- A relationship begins to deteriorate when it becomes less rewarding than it was.
- A couple can respond to deterioration actively or passively
- doing something that may enhance the relationship (e.g., working on improving communication skills, negotiating differences, or seeking professional help) or deciding to end the relationship
- merely waiting for something to happen, doing little or nothing. The couple can sit back and wait for the relationship to improve on its own (occasionally, it does) or to deteriorate to the point where it ends.
- Problems with jealousy and communication are common reasons for ending a relationship
- Various factors can save a deteriorating relationship
- Breaking up is often associated with psychological distress and a decrease in life satisfaction, especially for the partner who wanted to maintain a deteriorating relationship
"name, rank, and serial number
name, occupation, marital status, and hometown
dating sites offer users three things
1. They provide access to other people who are also seeking potential dating partners—people they would be unlikely to meet in their everyday lives.
2. They facilitate communication between potential partners, enabling them to explore each other online before they have a face-to-face meeting.
3. They make some attempt to match potential partners according to demographic variables such as (desired) race, religion, and age and according to personality traits. Potential partners thereby obtain a great deal of factual information about potential partners before meeting them
Pew Research Center found that most cases of sexting fall into three categories:
1. Exchange of photos solely between romantic partners in a relationship.
2. Exchange of photos between two people who aren't in a relationship, but one of the individuals sends a sext in the hope that it will help start a romantic relationship between the two.
3. Exchange of photos between romantic partners, or from an individual who hopes to start a relationship with the recipient and then sends the photos to additional people (Pew Research Centre, 2009).
- "Strong and silent"
- less willing to disclose their feelings
indirect verbal initiation
"I love you" or "I missed you,"
- form of initiating sex
direct verbal initiation
- "You make me so hot" or "I want you right now
- FOrm of initiating sex
indirect nonverbal initiation
- smiling at the partner or lying on a bed
- Form of initiating sex
direct nonverbal initiation
- fondling a partner's breasts or removing clothing
- form of initiating sex
- In all cultures
- more common and intense among cultures with stronger machismo traditions,
- found among gay males and lesbians as well as among heterosexuals
- can lead to loss of affection, feelings of insecurity and rejection, anxiety, loss of self-esteem, and mistrust of our partners and potential rivals.
- In extreme cases, jealousy can cause depression or give rise to spousal abuse, suicide, or murder
- Only about one-third said they explicitly asked for sex.
- The three most common nonverbal behaviours used by both genders were kissing their partners, moving closer, and touching their partners sexually.
- The most common ways two-thirds of both males and females indicated consent for sex were by not stopping their partners from kissing and sexually touching them, kissing their partners, moving closer, and touching their partners sexually.
- About half said they gave consent by not saying no.
- About half of the men and one-third of the women indicated consent by saying yes
policy developed by Antioch College in Ohio requires
verbal consent be obtained at every step of a sexual encounter. For example, if a woman wants to kiss her partner, according to the policy, she needs to directly ask whether she can. Later, if he wishes to touch her breasts, he needs to ask directly whether he can do so, and she has to say yes, verbally, before he can proceed.
Melanie Beres (2010) interviewed young men and women about how they communicated sexual consent with casual sex partners. Three main themes emerged
1. The respondents said they simply knew whether their partners were interested in having casual sex and therefore felt it was unnecessary to make formal requests to initiate sexual activity.
2. there were variations on the idea that "no means no" when communicating about casual sex. Rather than directly saying no, women used a diversity of tactics, such as saying they had boyfriends. Women also showed their discomfort with proceeding by pulling away or letting their bodies become tense and stiff. In the absence of these kinds of signals, men assumed women were interested in having sex.
3. "yes means yes" was communicated via subtle cues. For example, it was assumed that if someone was willing to leave a bar setting and go to a more private location, such as the other person's home, this indicated an interest in engaging in casual sex. Other indications included pulling the partner closer and listening to physical signs such as sighing, heavy breathing, and moaning.
Jealousy and Evolutionary Theory
- differences in jealousy appear to support evolutionary theory
- Males seem to be more upset by sexual infidelity, females by emotional infidelity
- males become more insecure and angry when their partners have sexual relations with others. Females become more insecure and angry when their partners become emotionally attached to others.
- gender difference in reactions to infidelity disappears when our partners have affairs with others of their own sex
- anxious people were more likely to be highly preoccupied with their lost partners, suffer more physical and emotional distress, attempt to reestablish the relationships, and be angry and vengeful
- Emotionally secure individuals were most likely to seek social support among their friends and families.
- Insecure individuals were most likely to turn to alcohol and drugs
- sometimes followed by stalking
Following or observing a person persistently, especially because of obsession with the person. This can occur online as well as in person, such as when a person breaks into someone else's e-mail
- Feelings of closeness and connectedness, marked by sharing of one's innermost thoughts and feelings.
- As couples age, becomes one of the most valued—if not the most valued— components of their relationship
- characterized by trust, caring, and acceptance
- People can be more emotionally intimate with friends than with lovers.
mutual cyclical growth
- The view that your need for your partner promotes commitment, which promotes acts that enhance the relationship, and that these acts build trust, increasing your partner's commitment to the relationship
- Has 5 stages
Mutual Growth Cycles 5 Stages
1. The feeling that you need your partner promotes your commitment to, and dependence on, the relationship. ■
2. Your commitment to the relationship encourages you to do things that are good for the relationship. ■
3. Your partner sees your pro-relationship acts. ■
4. Your partner's perception of your pro-relationship acts enhances his or her trust in you and in the relationship. ■
5. Your partner's feelings of trust increase his or her willingness to depend on the relationship.
Couples therapists who work with lesbian, gay, and bisexual individuals and couples find problems akin to those experienced by heterosexual couples, such as infidelity. They also find issues that require special sensitivity toward these commonly stigmatized subpopulations (Schwartz & Young, 2009):
- Lesbian/gay/bisexual (LGB) identity development, and its effect on the couple's functioning. ■
- Parenting, and its impact on the couple. ■
- LGB individuals as members of families. ■
- The kinds of stressors that affect individuals who are underrepresented in the LGB literature, including older LGB people, LGB members of ethnic minority groups, and LGB members of religious groups. ■
- Legal issues and their impact on the couple. ■
- Workplace issues, and their impact on the couple.
Communicating Sexual Needs
- Asking Questions to Draw the Other Person Out
- Using Self-Disclosure
- Granting Permission for the Other Person to Say Something That Might Upset You
- Providing Information
- Accentuating the Positive
- Using Verbal Cues
- Using Nonverbal Cues
Nonverbal Cue exercises
1. Take turns petting. This can help you and your partner learn what turns you both on. You take turns caressing each other, stopping frequently enough to receive feedback by asking questions like "How does that feel?" When you're receiving caresses, you're responsible for giving feedback, which can be expressed verbally
2. Direct your partner's hand. Gently guiding your partner's hand—to show your partner where and how you like to be touched—is a direct way of communicating your sexual preferences. While taking turns petting, and during other acts of lovemaking, one partner can gently guide the other's fingers and hands through the most satisfying strokes and caresses.
3. Signal. You can use agreed-upon nonverbal cues to signal sexual pleasure.
- first adopt the attitude that you may actually learn something
- recognize that even though the other person is doing the talking, you shouldn't just sit there. you can listen actively by maintaining eye contact and modifying your facial expression to show that you understand his or her feelings and ideas.
- also involves asking helpful questions, such as "Would you please give me an example?"
- Good listeners do not interrupt, change the topic, or walk away when their partners are speaking.
- Paraphrasing shows that you understand what your partner is trying to say
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